The social media phenom has been going on for a few years now. The "linked," "liked," "circled," "friended," "followed" "connected" is the way we interact with our on-line friends, family, business associates, etc.
I get that.
Last week I accepted a request in Google and added this person to my "Circle."
I didn't really know him, but my computer said that we had twenty-five gazillion friends in common . . . so who am I to disagree with my computer? It even showed me some of our mutual friends profile pics.
When I added him to my "circle" I was allowing him to swim in my stream.
This week I deleted him. Ignored, unfriended . . . OMIGOSH I can not keep up.
But he was g-o-n-e.
Why?
Because he posted something which appeared on my stream and what he posted was just this side of porn.
I'm sure the twenty-five gazillion of our mutual friends got the same post in their stream too.
If you're not checking the "newsfeeds," the "streams," the "links," the "tweets," the "twits," for those people you've "friended" "followed" "linked" "liked" "circled" . . .
you are allowing people to phish in your stream
Perhaps it's because I'm older now and feel like saying "HEY you kids . . . get off my lawn."
I actually don't want to see a bootilicious woman streaming on my site with an invite to come and party at the after-hours club, thank you very much.
I don't care that my computer told me we have twenty-five gazillion friends in common. Maybe because no one checks people anymore . . . but I'm no longer taking the word of my computer that we have people in common. I don't care!
If someone is hocking a product I'm not comfortable with, I'm going to ignore their request. If I see them phish in my stream about something I'm not comfortable with, I'm deleting . . . and our twenty-five gazillion mutual friends can have you pollute their sites with this crap, but I won't.
My social media is now like a garden I've got to tend to . . . and weed periodically.
ANNOYING!!
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Carla, you are right on target with your story. It is not the number or the computer recommendation, social media connections are all about trust. And numbers do not equal trustworthy.
Hi Emily . . . I think people want a'gazillion friends for some reason.
Hey Nancy -- phising scams abound, and I'm no longer relying on the computer telling me that we have friends in common. I'm going to check people out now, so I don't have to weed later.
I try to be careful. I don't befriend anyone I don't know. So far so good, and no problems.
I only accept invitations after checking the requester's profile and confirming that they are in a business that fits with mine. I don't do any linking for social reasons.
"HEY you kids . . . get off my lawn."
That would make a great Social Media Mantra!
Hi Carla, Oh, now I have to add weeding to my neverending list! I too usually check the profile of the person and their stream...but sometimes I bet a few uglies get in there.
Carla...I hear you. I see these people adding me & I have no idea who they are so I generally do not ad them.
I am pretty tolerant but I do kick people off my lawn it they are way intolerant over something stupid like race. My grandchildren say things that even my '60's hippie- pot- smoking- free- loving generation never discussed at all ....never mind with the world. Different strokes.
Carla-As we get older, some of us want to reduce the circle with deeper relationships not increase the circle's size. But, if you want to send me that link with that " bootilicious woman" I can monitor it for you. (Just kidding-I'm too old to handle it anyway)
Carla... your post is a wonderful reminder that just because we may have "friends" in common, does not mean that an I need to also be your friend... just this week, twice, I wrote to two of my friends to ask about one of their friends who had sent me a friend request. It's better to be safe than sorry!!
Carla, I'm a little cautious about who I'll add to Facebook as a for instance. I'm baffled when I get a friend request from someone who has never commented on our AR blog, we've never commented on theirs either. I truly don't know them and the only link we share is being part of the same 200,000 member site? I need a little more in common before I'll say okay to that request. And I know Google + is really bad about suggesting people for similar reasons. Bill
I try to be careful also as we all do & then stuff like this slips under our radar & noses! I also hate when someone sends you stuff that's just too personal from a loan officer or something. I don't want to see you & your wife 1/2 neked in the pool! Egads! They've become too friendly in my estimation!
Worse yet are LO's that attack you on LinkedIn.
Carla -
Great post - I really like your "hey kids, get off of my lawn" comment! Cracked me up! Well written!
Brett
Carla: I'm always somewhat amazed at this sort of thing. What are business people thinking?? I've seen something like it on Twitter too ... which now offers a "peek" into the activity of those you are following. Do they not know that you can now see they are befriending and following porn stars? or young women just "looking for good friends"? Or the four-letter words you're using in the more public updates on the many social medias? Not exactly the impression I want others to have, when I'm in business. NOTHING slips by anymore ... not when you're on the internet ...
Gene
Hi Debbie . . . I'm being careful now! ;-)
Hey Chris -- I am taking that approach now too.
Hi Fred . . . LOL
Hey Cindy -- I'm glad I'm not the only one it's happened to, but yeah, now I've got to weed through ...
Hi Christine . . . they only reason they contact me is because we've got twenty-five gazillion friends in common but they just want to spam
Hey Marge -- I like most of the streams, twits, . . .most. LOL
Hi Wayne . . . you are too funny, I cracked up reading your comment. ;-)
Hey Peggy -- that reminds me that I've done that too! I've asked "Do you know so-and-so" It was some creepy guy looking for the ladies apparently. They didn't know him (but had "friended" him for some unknown reason.
Hi Bill . . . I'm learning and to me less is more!
Hey Lyn -- Egads is right.
Hi Brett . . . thanks!!
Hey Gene -- To answer the rhetorical, I don't know what they're thinking. I'm with you on the 'not exactly the impression I want other to have." Exactly!!
Carla, I used to friend almost anyone. No more. I don't need a lot of friends I don't know.
Carla - I'm with you on this one. Sometimes these new "friends" are NOT the kind of people we'd invite into our homes (virtual or otherwise) to say the least There should be a "creep catcher" online that we could use to filter people through.
I "purged" my facebook for new year's. I used to play some "games" and made friends with strangers and now I've blocked the games (except words with friends) and and deleted those peeps. I have also had one of those "pornish posts" show up when a friend got hacked. I called them and they really didn't post it. But if you don't know a person well enough to KNOW they did NOT post that, you have to assume they did and delete, unfriend or kick them out of the circle.... whatever.
I just don't get how to control Google+. I had to stop all notifications because even when people removed me from their streams I was still getting daily emails from people.
I am getting tons of folks adding me to their circles that I have noooo idea who they are. I don't add them, I just ignore it. It's amazing the amount of folks that have access to you when you have any type of online presence. One must be very cautious. By the way...how to un Google+ someone? Are they always allowed to just follow you without your permission?
There's just too many da-n social media sites these days, lol :)!
Carla ~ I get requests from folks I don't even know and wonder why they want to be my friend. If I don't know them, why would I friend them?
Carla, I stopped "friending" anyone I haven't "met in AR or linked in. And, even then, there's been a couple of "iffy's." (Is that a word?) LOL.
Carla, I'm with you on that as well. I haven't been very active on Google+ but as far as Facebook is concerned, I am not always accepting every friend request and actually have defriended people who I thought I did not want to be associated with based on what they are posting. I feel that if I would not feel comfortable "hanging out" with them in real life, I don't need to online neither.
Hi Carla, I agree with you. Friends are important, but the friends have to be "real" friends. Some people just strangers who never talk with me online. Now, I never add people without introducing themselves and I don't know.
Thanks for sharing!
Have a good day!